Self -concept describe the way we see ourselves. People with positive sense of self have confident in their ability to complete tasks. They feel proud when they are successful.If you instill confidence in your child from childhood onwards, your child will develop fearlessness and judgment which will become a part of his personality.

         
TODDLER DEVELOPE SELF-ESTEEM
SELF-ESTEEM & SELF-CONFIDENCE


You can help your child’s developing self – concept in three ways.

1.             Let her know you care
                             
     You made your child feel important from the time she was a baby, Hugs, kisses, smiles, and comforting all told her “You are loved and special!”
In fact, children whose parents are nurturing, show affection, and accept attachments. These are the building blocks for positive self – esteem.

How to Do it?  
·       Plan time to play together. When you focus on playing with your child, it shows that you value her as a person. It’s also fun!
·      Recognize that your child’s feelings and emotions are real. Take time to a acknowledge them. Help your child learn words to express strong feelings.


2.   Set Reasonable Expectation  

          Your child needs to experience success in her activities. Toys should match her developmental level so she is not continually frustrated or bored.
       Offer plenty of creative activities. Such as using play dough or crayons. Creative activities provide an outlet where your child can express herself without fear of making a mistake -there is no wrong way to do them!

 How to Do it?  
·       Give your child time to figure out how to overcome an obstacle before jumping in to help. Self help skills are a great way for a toddler to learn independence and the feeling of “ I can do it!” especially if you help with a few of the more challenging parts at first.
·       Break big jobs down onto small steps. Your Two-year-old may be able to put on a pair of shoe but not tie the laces.
·       Accept your child ‘s efforts. If your toddlers put napkins at table, it is OK if some of them are on the wrong side of plates. If you re-do a job or criticize, your child will miss the good feelings of being capable.


3. Offer Genuine Praise

  Parents can reinforce a child’s sense of competence – which then reinforces a child’s developing self-esteem.

Think of praise as verbal pat on the back. A little bit feels great, but give her too much and it loses its impact. Genuine praise should also be specific to your child ‘s efforts. This helps build a growth mindset – the idea that your child can build skills.

 How to Do it?
·       Praise the works she did when your child reaches a goal. “You finished the tower way to build!” 
·       Praise small changes and successes “you should feel proud! You went all morning with dry pants!”
·       Be descriptive, Broad praise like “You are wonderful” may feel good, but your child needs to know why she is wonderful. Instead, link praise to efforts “The way you waited for your snack was wonderful!”
·       Avoid taking about attribute like smartness, looks, or temperament. These contribute to a fixed mindset.